January 29, 2012 at 3:42 am · Filed under law of attraction, personal growth, relationships, Uncategorized ·Tagged children, co dependency, compromise, daughters, exes, family, goals, happiness, holiday, inner peace, love, relationships, stepchildren
So I just got back from a short holiday in Florida, and it was lovely and sad all at once. I got to see my three grandchildren which was why I went in the first place. Seeing their happy smiling faces was absolutely wonderful. I picked my daughter and the children up in Orlando and then drove down to Hollywood Florida so that I could see my Mum. The weather was picture perfect so we all had a great time at the beach. The sad part was realizing how so many things had changed yet remained the same. An incident happened with my Mom and Dad that made me realize that although they loved me they still consider me the irresponsible screw-up, and after only 24 hours my daughter and I were snipping at each other; we had been getting along so well this past year that I had great hopes that we were finally past all the BS that had been going on before. But no….old hurts and resentments made their way to the surface rather quickly! She is still so mad that I left Florida, which wouldn’t be so bad except that she is only upset because I’m not there to provide free babysitting services. And even though I’ve sent her money and tons of things for the children she got very quickly on the hump when I bought the fella’s children some small souvenirs. So I’ve come to realize a couple of things; it doesn’t matter how much I do for her, it will never be enough. And she really isn’t concerned with my happiness because she herself isn’t happy. Wow, just reading that I feel sad. I mean really how much time do we spend trying to please other people in our lives just to always be told it isn’t enough. So on the plane home I started to really think about a situation that is ongoing in my life at this moment and it is almost De Ge Vu. As I had mentioned before the fella has two young daughters, and for the past two years I have been giving my time and energies to them freely but two weeks ago it came out that the younger daughter has been playing both sides of the fence so to speak. When I entered her life I started to doing things with her, because she kept saying how her mother ignored her and didn’t do things with her. Turns out that every time she went back to her ’Mums’ house ’ she did nothing but talk badly about me and told her mum that I bossed her about and was trying to be her “Mum”; Talk about a kick in the teeth! But when this all came about I first thought you know she is only ten and she is caught up in this ugly situation between her parents. Basically putting it down to her trying to cozy up to her Mum by trashing me. The fella and I talked to her and she was all tears and I’m sorry, and we made the family decision that from here on out there would be open communication between the two houses so no more of this “she said, she said” business. But now I’m just wondering if I’m not setting myself up for great disappointments down the road. The reality is that I love my fiance and he loves me, that is a given. Out of the complete mess that we both had in our lives we have created a strong and loving bond. His older daughter who has Downs Syndrome accepts and loves me completely and that is in part because she has no guile or dishonesty in her. She see’s things in black and white, basically I make her Daddy and her happy and that is all that matters to her. In fact that is a post all on its own as living with her has opened my eyes to a lot of things in the human character. But with the younger daughter she is so easily swayed back and forth; I have no doubt that she loves me and loves the family that we have created. But I’m afraid that she will end up like my daughter and her older half-sister only interested in how things affect them. Always wanting things to be about them and not having any trouble at all switching from one side to another in order to get what they want. Then not accepting responsiblity for the chaos they create. So now here is the quandary, I’ve started pulling away from the child because I do not want to get hurt. I look at all the drama that I have with my daughter and then see how the fella raised his step daughter for 13 years and then she turned around and spit in his face and wonder what I’m setting myself up for here. And of course when talk to him he wants me to keep on giving, though God bless him he at least respects that I have a point.
So I was able to go home and most of it was lovely, but it did make me face some hard facts about what is going on in my life at this moment. So the best I’ve been able to come up with now is that I still have to prove to my Mum that this was the right move from me. And the only way to do that is to keep on succeeding, because that is what I have been doing for the past two years. with my daughter I can only accept that she is what she is and no matter, I love her to death, though we really do better with a few states separating us! And with the situation with the fella’s daughter…well that is still a work in progress. for at this time I really do not know what to do. It isn’t in my character to not give 100% , yet I’m not willing to set myself up for hurt and disappointment. Got some pondering to do I think.
May all that find this be blessed in their lives as I have been!
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January 18, 2012 at 7:38 am · Filed under Uncategorized ·Tagged relationships, love, law of attraction, children, step-parents, families, hostility, negativity, overcoming
We all wonder and question what it takes to be a parent, but in this day and age of blended families I now pose the question; what does it take to be a step-parent. The answer is not so easy or straightforward.
As I mentioned before I have met a wonderful fella who I have been in a committed relationship for two years now, and we have recently announced that we are making things permanent. Now this man has two children that I absolutely adore. From day one they latched themselves onto me, which was a little unsettling because usually in these situations you would expect the children to be a bit wary of a new adult entering their domain. But because their mother had been largely absent in their lives for the past few years they eagerly welcomed me into their lives. All was well…. for about two seconds until their mother realized that competition was around. And then the drama started.
So here lies the quandary; how do you be an effective friend/parent in situations such as this? I started out with just being a friend to them and at the same time trying to reach out to their mother and assure her that I was in no way trying to usurp her in their lives. When that was met with not only negativity but outright hostility from the mother, it made things downright difficult.
What makes this so hard is that the girls are so loving, but being children they repeat all that they hear so I was constantly being bombarded with negative energy. “Mommy says your ugly” “Mommy says that you’re a hobo on the street Daddy took in” “Mommy says that your trouble” and the list goes on and on! Many a night the fella found me sobbing away, and of course he said everything he could to comfort me. “Don’t worry she’s a bitch” “No one likes her or listens to what she says” “She’ll get bored and give it up” But if anyone has ever been assaulted with such negativity you know that words can cut deeper than any knife. So I’ve kept quiet in order to keep the peace and I’ve just dealt with it.
Well recently things have come to a head. The youngest child we found out was being sat down and interrogated whenever she returned to her mother’s house after staying with us. Well she had ended up repeating a conversation that we had. Then we get the phone call and the mother issues a statement to the fella “your girlfriend is saying horrible things, things too horrible to repeat” That my dear readers was the straw that broke the camel’s back! I had been dealing with smoke and mirrors and outright lies from this women for too long. So I demanded that he call her back and find out what were these “horrible” things that I supposedly said. Long story short, when confronted she couldn’t come up with one valid horrible thing, and as an added bonus we also brought up several fallacies that had been fed to the children and she had to admit that they were in fact lies. Score one for me! But in fact it isn’t a win at all, because all it did was really was highlight how grownup squabbling was tearing these poor children apart. When we finally talked to his daughter again she was so torn up it would break your heart, but she said something that turned this all around for me. She said that the only person that mommy cares about is mommy. Now one part of me just cried that at such a young age she was having this euphony, but the other part of me realized that yes this was all about her mom and how I was letting this women have control over my life. So out comes the books and we go back to step one……..NO NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, NEGATIVITY ATTRACTS NEGATIVITY.
I have now come to realize that their mother and I will never be friends. But I don’t need that to be an effective step-parent. I have the love of the fella and the girls and as long as I focus on that nothing else will matter. All I have to do is keep positive and remember that I am a good person and people see that. And if someone wants to spew negativity about me, as long as I am positive and keep to the higher ground I will always be the winner.
This is something that we all have to remember to do in all situations in life. There will always be people trying to drag us down, but that is because they perceive us as being above them and they can’t deal with it!
May all that find this live in the love that God intended for us
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January 16, 2012 at 4:29 am · Filed under Uncategorized ·Tagged adultry, family, law of attraction, opportunity, relationships, starting over
Bits of advice that everyone who is dating should take to heart…..If they are willing to cheat to be with you, it is a certainty that they will cheat on you. If absolutely everyone around you, friends family coworkers, tell you that you are making a mistake; you might want to rethink the relationship. If they tell you what a horrible awful person their ex is, you can guarantee that they will one day describe you like that. If the inundate you with an excess of love cards, presents and can’t stop calling you every moment of the day. You can bet that that not only are the only in “love” with the rush of “being in love” but that they are insecure as well! And finally if they absolutely love everything you love and you can do no wrong…they are faking it! Yes I know I sound horribly cynical but really if you think about it…it is so true! This has come up because at least three people I know are heartbroken at this moment, and all of them had at least one of these warning signs. In fact one of them had all of these warning signs.
My friend is one of those realists who see the glass half empty and wake up expecting something to go wrong; and I drive them nuts with my ever over flowing positive attitude. Some days I just want to take all that I have learned about the Laws of Attraction and “beam” it into their brain. I asked a very innocent question of them the other day, I asked “are you happy?” I was expecting a general answer of yes, because we were having a great day. Well what I got just broke my heart; they said “honestly no, I’m not” so of course I inquired why. For the interest of time I’ll summarize, but the story is that they had waited a long time to get into a serious relationship and it wasn’t happening and they were lonely and they then met a married women who pursed them and convinced them that she had instantaneously fallen in love with him and that only they could save her from the misery of her life. Now everyone told him my friend that they were nuts but they were in love so even with serious doubts and the disapproval of their family and friends they got married. And from the day the ring went on everything changed and slowly over the years things went from bad to worse. But divorce wasn’t an option so they basically accepted that they had made their bed and now they had to sleep in it. Eventually his wife started going out on her own, see he had run out of money and she refused to accept that so she sought out other “friends” to amuse her and take her out and about. Eventually rumors of infidelity arose and he felt he was being made a fool of. Then when he started to object to the behavior that his spouse was exhibiting she left the house leaving him and the two children on their own. So anyhow he now is saying that he regrets his entire life, that he has failed himself and his children and disappointed his family. He wished that he had kept to his values and had not settled for second best. And he wonders where he would be now, if he had made different choices.
So this is where Ms. Positivity steps in and says “shut your mouth”! I told him that yes admittedly he had made a bad choice; see above, if they cheat to be with you, they will cheat on you! And even though as things progressed and he realized he had made a mistake I pointed out to him that it was because he was such a good man and was standing by a commitment he made, that he did go through with things. Which I pointed out makes him a man of character. Basically it is the things that we do in our lives that shape the path that we end up on, good things and bad things. And what we do in the past is just that….the past. If we continue to dwell on all our mistakes and missed chances we could foreseeably miss out on opportunities that are right in front of us.
So that is the moral of my little story; most of us have regrets, some more than others. But the universe is forgiving and generous. There is always another chance right in front of you, all you have to do is open your eyes, mind and heart and grab it with both hands. With any luck the people that this is meant for will see it, and for those who see it and already know..pass it on to someone else in need. Visualize it, and then live it!
May all that read this be blessed with the abundance of life
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January 15, 2012 at 10:24 pm · Filed under Uncategorized ·Tagged daughters, family, law of attraction, love, mothers, opportunities, relationships
Wow….I cannot believe that it has been nearly two years since I last posted. I think perhaps I might be one of those writers that can only produce when they’re in the middle of personal crisis and drama!
Well so much has happened I really do not know where to begin. I am happy to report that the Law of Attraction is still working for me and I did manage to hit the reset button…because I am living the joyful life that I had so desired. I am still with my lovely fella, in fact we are getting married. Yes I know that was supposed to be a big no no. But for once I can truly say that I have met my match. He is the most loving and wonderful man I am so blessed that he came into my life. It was a rocky start as we both were dealing with the residual effects of being in toxic relationships, but we both saw from the very beginning that we had something special and magical together…something worth nurturing and making grow.
I am finally opening up my hair salon, something that I was supposed to do quite a while ago but it kept getting pushed to the side. I had ended up working at a local golf resort and did really well there; In fact I ended up being the bar manager. But I did my usual bit of getting comfortable in the situation, the money was good, the people were great, so I stopped pursuing my dreams. But then fate stepped in and a series of events made me realize that once again I was settling for easy instead of taking the harder road and pursuing my dreams. So I left the manager job and actually started seriously pushing to get the salon opened, and TA DA within a few months the dream will become a reality. The fella has been such a big part of this as well, he kept pushing me to follow my dream; instead of throwing up every impediment which is what usually happens to me. In all actuality the fact that we work so well together is what makes this such a great relationship. Both of us were involved with people that instead of helping us they tore us down, and because we share that hurt and disappointment from our previous partners I think we try extra hard to make things work this time around.
I’m off to Florida for the first time in nearly two years. I’m very excited to being seeing my daughter and the kidlets. An extra bonus is that we are going down to Miami to see my Mom and Dad whom I haven’t seen in yonks! It is so scary how quickly time passes. Anyone who doesn’t have Skype needs to get it straight away; it really helps you keep in touch with your loved ones. The fella has family all over the world and I set up an account for him and he is chatting away with his sisters all the time. Christmas day we even got to Skype with his Da, which was great as he finally got to put a face to my voice as well as he got to see his grandchildren for the first time in nearly ten years. I was really heartwarming to watch.
As I mentioned before I’m still actively using the Law of Attraction in my life and it is as big a blessing today as it was nearly three years ago when I first “discovered” it. It really helps me keep centered, not only in visualizing the things that I want to accomplish but also in dealing with the petty things in life that in the past would have put me into a tailspin but now I just sit down and meditate a bit and put it behind me. And it is working, a few weeks ago the man that had actually initiated the process of me coming to New York reared his ugly head and instead of me getting upset I just realized that he hasn’t moved on at all, he is still mired in all the awfulness that he was three years ago. I thank god that I met him because it did lead me here, but I’m so glad that he isn’t in my life because I would have just been playing a rerun of all the mistakes I’ve made in the past. Instead I have a brilliant life now; I’ve healed the relationship with my daughter, new business opportunities are flowing in and I have a fella who is going to profess his love and devotion to me before God and all. LOL he is so cute, he usually keeps his personal business close to his vest so I thought he would keep it a bit quiet but he is in fact telling everyone he meets that we are getting married! LIFE IS GOOD!
As usual may all that run across this post be as happy in their life as I am in mine
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April 30, 2010 at 8:01 pm · Filed under law of attraction, personal growth, relationships, Uncategorized ·Tagged family, goals, happiness, health, inner peace, personal growth, problem solving, relationships, starting over, timing, women, work, writing
I was randomly going through other blogs here on WordPress and started to feel really inadequate! There are some very good blogs on this site and the different topics are amazing. The one thing that I saw that most of them had in common though is they had something to talk about…a purpose. Maybe that is what my problem is, I have no purpose. Well no clear-cut one at least, and since I’ve become unemployed I have even less purpose! You would think that with all this time on my hands I would be churning out something profound everyday! I consider myself somewhat well read and do try to keep up with current events…so why is my brain turning into cottage cheese? I need to find a purpose, well no I need to get FOCUSED on a purpose and stick with it. I find myself running into the same things I always do, which is to throw myself wholeheartedly into something or someone and in the process lose myself. In fact because I have been doing this all my life do I really know who myself is? And we can take this one step further, why not we’re on a roll, at this late great date is there anything left of “me” to find. I mean really I am sure most of remember that Billy Joel song “strangers”. I remembered it not so much for the lyrics but the picture of him on the album cover with the masks. Sometimes I feel as if I have a closet full of masks that I wear and switch around for different people and situations. And that I have been doing it for so long that I don’t even know who I really am? Aughhh, I have been reduced to musing and rambling now, but I guess I really do need to start thinking of my purpose and what I need to do to be truly happy. That is why I started this blog in the first place…though it has taken its fair share of twist and turns over the past few months.
May all that find this be blessed!
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April 24, 2010 at 3:20 pm · Filed under law of attraction, Uncategorized ·Tagged goals, happiness, inner peace, law of attraction, life, love, problem solving, procrastination, relationships, starting over, timing, women, work, writing
A couple of weeks ago I had decided to contact a few people who I had fallen out with a while back. It was mostly caused by my actions and I was trying to just clean up some of my past so I could move into my future. The conversations went well, but one of the girls signed off with “life’s not a dress rehearsal.” Which got me thinking, and I had actually meant to blog about it earlier, but me being me I sat on it and procrastinated. Anyhow, I’m hitting one of those little crossroads in my life again and that phrase popped into my mind. I sit here thinking I am 45 years of age, and I probably got another good 30 years in me. So what am I going to do. I keep “talking” about what I am going to do…but not much gets done. Actually I am in a really good spot to do something; I mean I wanted out of Florida because I hated it, and I’m now in New York. I wanted to get into a loving partnership with someone who I could move forward with; and I found it. Granted it isn’t without its drama, but really what relationship isn’t. And I have made the full conscious decision that this will work and that I won’t sabotage it like I have done with every other serious relationship that has come my way. I am unemployed at the moment, but my needs are being taken care of and my partner is understanding that I am trying to find something that will work long-term. So if you look at it my life at this moment in time is like a huge blank canvas waiting for me to fill it in. So what am I going to do?
What I’m afraid of is that I will do not much of anything. Just meander and procrastinate along filling each day as it comes and not striving towards something better. I look at the people around me and I can easily say that 90% of them are just filling each day as it comes. They are working in jobs that they hate because they don’t want to take a chance and try to do something different. They are in new relationships without completely ending the previous one which just impedes the growth of and chances of the new relationship actually flourishing. They dream and talk of doing things, but don’t actually do them… and don’t get me wrong I am guilty of each and every one of these transgressions….
Which brings me back to the statement of the day “LIFE ‘S NOT A DRESS REHEARSAL”. So I’m not sure how going to do it, but I am going to just start doing it. I’m going to really get a game plan going set some short and long-term goals and get the lead out!
\May all that find this be blessed and find their purpose.
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April 20, 2010 at 3:05 pm · Filed under law of attraction, Uncategorized ·Tagged blessings, children, compromise, daughter, exes, family, happiness, inner peace, intervention, law of attraction, love, mothers, personal growth, problem solving, relationships, starting over, women
Well I just had a woops moment! My darling daughter has just discovered my site..and of course she did it after I had made a not so wonderful observation of her character. So after dealing with that issue via IM, always fun to argue that way; Both parties are typing away a mile a minute and comments are getting crossed over in the fray! So I then go back and look at my last blog and decided that she’s getting her knickers in a tear for no reason, I was just being sarcastic! And I said nice things as well.
Anyhow it got me thinking about the special relationship between mothers and daughters, to say that all of mine are complicated is a understatement! My birth mother I have absolutely no contact with, no love lost there; I severed ties with her completely about 15 years ago. Though as I have gotten older, and had several down and out rows with my own daughter, I can almost empathise with what she was going through and why she made decisions that she did. At the end of the day I really don’t ever see me having any contact with her ever. She took being bitchy and manipulative to all new heights, and I know like I know that even if we did the whole hugs and tears and I’m sorry route, we would be at each other within minutes. Now my mommy whom I adore and love completely, and drive nuts…LOL has been my mom for 40 years when she had the unfortunate luck to marry my father, trust me that is a whole other story! But she has been my mom, best friend, and guardian angel since day one. In fact I shudder to think what my life would have been like if she hadn’t been there for me. I always tell her that God has a special place in heaven for her because she saved my life. Now of course we have our moments but we get over them quickly and she forgives me for whatever new transgression I’ve committed. Actually she is on her way to a new set of wings because I got her tangled up in operation “rescue the kidlets” (I just know I’m going to hear about this!) Anyhow my daughter kinda followed me down the rocky path of life and it had come to a point where intervention was necessary in order to help her get her life together so that she could provide a good life for her kids. Mom and I started paying all the bills so that she could go to school full-time, take care of the kids and not have to worry about working. Worked out well until I flaked out and took off to New York. Which left poor mom holding the bag on supporting the child. See I told you she was a saint! LOL
Which leaves the story of me and my daughter, to say that we are completely different from one another is an understatement! I wonder where the heck she sprung from on more than one occasion. If I hadn’t been there for the birth I would swear that she was a changeling. And I have always admitted that I made a load of mistakes raising her. I was too young and to totally unprepared to have a child. Plus I come from a long line of people who excel at screwing up their kids. Anyhow she survived, and as my Mom points out I did do some good things along the way. But I know at the point where I really screwed up…and that was when she was 13 and I met my second husband. She was at that age where daughters need their mothers and I was off at the pubs getting pissed, basically I chose a man over her. So she did the classic move of falling in with the wrong crowd started doing drugs and basically wrote me off. Looking back I can’t say I blame her. But then she got pregnant and became a mother, and we bonded over that for a while, then she got pregnant a few more times….. Anyhow at the end of the day. I do give her that she is a great mom to the kidlets, don’t always agree with what she does, who she hangs out with, etc…but that is okay because she feels the same way about me!
At the end of the day we will never have the closeness that me and my mom have, but we will never have the level of animosity that my birth mother and I have. We hang out in some middle ground, which is okay because as I told someone recently that made a disparaging remark about her; I can say anything I want about my daughter because I’m her mother and I love her no matter what. But God help anyone else that says a word against her!
So all that find this take the time to tell your mother or daughter that you love them! God Bless
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April 15, 2010 at 10:42 am · Filed under law of attraction, Uncategorized ·Tagged blessings, children, daughter, exes, family, friends, goals, happiness, inner peace, law of attraction, life, personal growth, relationships, starting over, timing, women
Well I got back from Florida in one piece, good Lord what a grueling drive. I did have company this time though that made it a bit easier. though if you want to test a relationship take a four-day car trip and see if you’re both still speaking to each other at the end of the day! We had a couple of touch and go moments…like he hates the way I drive and vice versus, I supposedly “pulse” while I’m driving. I have to give him that one because it is not the first time I have heard it! Supposedly I make people seasick, but ya know if ya don’t like it get a ride someplace else; which they often do!!! He though is a typical man with road rage issues. In WA he got so mad at the fact that he was lost that we got even MORE lost because he went tearing about without taking the time to plot a new course! It must be a conspiracy, they changed the roads just to mess him up. They knew he was coming!! I mean really does screaming and cursing at the person in front of you really accomplish anything at all…except give your partner a pounding headache?! But all in all we got on well, I’m still here aren’t I?!
So we get down there and everything I was worried about happened. My daughter left my house in a god awful mess, she always does it when she moves. Why would this time be any different? Sometimes I really do feel for her, she thinks she was born Paris Hilton but ended up poor white trash. Why else does she expect everyone else to come behind her and deal with the mess she leaves behind. I have really had to let that whole situation go before I lost my mind completely. She is what she is, and nothing is going to change it. I can love her because she is my daughter but I don’t have to like her. At this moment I am just hoping to keep the peace so that I can continue to have contact with the kidlets. Plus God bless him, my ex has really stepped up to the plate and stayed in the babies lives. He sees them nearly every weekend and keeps an eye on the situation. I often think back on “that” whole situation and really wished that it had worked out better. But I think, well I know that there had been problems from day one and it is easier to look back at a situation with “rose-coloured” glasses when you are no longer in it. I’m just ever so thankful that we have a working relationship where we stayed friends. Speaking of friends I went and saw a few of mine. Quite frankly I had hoped to run into a few more of them, but it is a case of I was out of the loop for so long and people carry on with their lives. But when you do run into them again you can still have a laugh and catch up. In fact I have a girlfriend from High School, yes many, many, many, years ago! LOL And we have actually been out of touch more than we have been in touch yet when we see each other we click as though we see each other everyday. That I believe is what constitutes having a bond with someone. But anyway it was good to see my Florida crowd, most of them are still doing what they were doing when I left which makes me know that I made the right decision to move. It was a bit drastic and melodramatic, kinda still is actually! But I wasn’t happy where I was and it wasn’t going to change until “I” made a change. Which I did, now it is time to create a good life here. The kind of life that will complete me body, heart and soul. For as a friend of mine pointed out, and this is why I love her; I need to get my shit together because life is not a dress rehearsal!
May all that find this be blessed and loved!
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April 4, 2010 at 12:05 pm · Filed under law of attraction, Uncategorized ·Tagged blessings, children, compromise, exes, family, goals, happiness, holiday, hormones, inner peace, law of attraction, life, personal growth, problem solving, relationships, starting over
Compromise…something I have a lot of trouble with. it seems that either I become a complete pushover and just go along with everything; or I get on the hump and just don’t want to know! One thing I am learning is that I need to find a balanced middle ground or I am never going to be at peace.
I’m feeling a bit blue today, rather reflective I think. Even though I love living up here and feel that I am making good strides at starting a new life, I find that for the past few days I have been discontented and out of sorts. So being me I try to find the cause of these feelings. Part of it I know is hormonal, the dreaded curse is upon me and that always brings the blues down on my head. Then I am getting ready to go back down to Florida to pick up the rest of my belongings and my new beau is driving me and will be meeting my friends down there. On one hand I am really excited and on the other I’m very apprehensive. The excitement of course is self explanatory, I’ll be able to see the kidlets for the first time in three months which will be great I’ve been missing them so. seeing my friends will be nice as I haven’t seen them in Yonks with all that was going on before I left Florida. But the apprehension is being caused I think by my worries that I’ll get down there and wonder if I made the right decision to leave, If my family was right in saying that I should have just worked things out down there. Also am I making the right choice to introduce the new fella around, my ex is sure to hear about it, and what will be the fall out from that?
So what does this all have to do with compromise? LOL I have been digging my heals in and being a bit stroppy with the fella because he does things one way and I do things another. Per usual the stress is being caused by stupid little things, he hides eggs all over the house for the girls and then lets them eat chocolate all day.. I have always made a basket and put it at the foot of the bed for them to find when they wake up. I think he plans too many activities for one day, I think you should choose one or the other; ex. movies or McDonald’s, not both. Beyond the expense factor, have you seen the cost of taking four people to the movies, after driving an hour to get there, running through the shops for two hours, then watching a nice movie, my only thoughts were of getting back in the car and taking a quick kip on the drive home. Not racing to McDonald’s and spending another $30 to basically get a couple of annoying plastic toys which will end up in the bin in a couple of days! See what I mean, I’m being moody!
But I really think that it is being caused by a whole series of situations where I do things one way and he does them another. So when does the compromise come in and how do you know when it is balanced? Once again I think that a lot of this is being cause because I entered this relationship too fast and we never really got to enjoy the honeymoon period before “family” time began. But as I have said before, in this day and age of broken relationships where everyone seems to be starting over and bring shed loads of baggage with them, how do you make it work….COMPROMISE!
When I find the balance that makes things work I’ll let you know! 
May all that find this be blessed with patience and love.
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April 1, 2010 at 10:37 am · Filed under Uncategorized ·Tagged abreham-hicks, blessings, exes, family, goals, happiness, inner peace, law of attraction, love, personal growth, problem solving, relationships, starting over, work
I’ve been told its spring…though from the state of the weather up here you would never know it. I get on the internet and stare at photos of sunny places just to get me through the day! But never less work is getting us all ready for the big “spring cleaning” RRRGGGHHH. But it started me thinking about spring and renewal and all that good stuff and I though it might be a good time of doing some cleaning up my ownself, some mental spring cleaning!
I have already begun cleaning up a bit before this thought had popped into my mind. I’ve finally cleared out the photos of my exes off FB and I’ve decided that the time has come to actually start working on getting some divorce papers together. I mean it isn’t like I was procrastinating because I have deep feelings for either one of them anymore it is just I’m really bad at shutting doors. I have always liked leaving myself a “Plan B”, you know that little escape route for when things go pear-shaped your not totally screwed! But I think, no I know that I am entering a phase in my life where I feel comfortable without Plan B. And I have also come to realize through the Law of Attraction that your blessings won’t flow to you unless you firmly 100% believe that in that big picture. Your wants and your dreams can’t flow to you while you are still holding on to the pain and broken dreams of your past. So I’m doing some Spring Cleaning, I know that my ex (well soon to be ex) will probably never talk to me once I serve him with papers. But I don’t think that either one of us can fully move on until we formalize the end of our marriage. Hopefully down the line we can be friends on some level, but that ball will be in his court. May all that find this have a blessed and joyful day.
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